Regrets are good. Having regrets helps you self-correct. And life is about self-correcting and self-adjusting yourself to the universal truths, to God, to what it means to be a human and a part of this world. Sometimes we don’t learn nor change unless we feel the pain of regret.
When I think of all the things I want to do and change about my life, I feel completely overwhelmed. And then, all I can hear is the voice inside my head that tells me that it’s pointless, impossible and that I don’t have the time. That it makes no sense and I’d better give up now, before being disappointed. That it’s useless to hope for things I can’t achieve.
So I wrote them down, all the big things I want to do or change in my life. And I realized that they are actually not that many. About seven or eight. Yes, big projects. Yes, I need consistency and to work on them for a longer period. But they seem a lot more doable when you look at them written down on a piece of paper. Some of them derive from others on the list, and I can work on them only after I achieve the others. That means that the list of things to work on right now is shorter. It came down to just five things I want.
I called this “My Essential Desires” list, and it goes on the front page of my all in one notebook for daily motivation and focus.
Every time I accomplished something, I made a silent commitment to myself. A secret decision that I will go for it. And it was all the motivation I needed.
I didn’t tell anyone about it; I didn’t announce the world. And I don’t remember writing it down, either.
That determined inner commitment is more important than any goal system, calendar, application or coach.
The tools are helpful if the commitment exists. Just the tools alone, are a waste of time.